GH-41426: [R][CI] Install CRAN style openssl on gh runners.

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Rationale for this change

See issue.

What changes are included in this PR?

Enforce usage of binary and install of cran openssl version on intel and arm macos.

Are these changes tested?

Crossbow

• GitHub Issue: [R][CI] CRAN-style openssl not being picked up #41426

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⚠️ GitHub issue #41426 has been automatically assigned in GitHub to PR creator.

[assignUser]

Partial success? It get's the right binary but still uses the brew openssl include? https://github.com/ursacomputing/crossbow/actions/runs/9056112849/job/24878643760#step:16:66

configure seems to ignore the set Envvar?

Edit: it's not configure, we don't pass the envvar on to cmake which then looks for a brew prefix.

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@github-actions crossbow submit r-binary-packages

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Revision: f3cf9f8

Submitted crossbow builds: ursacomputing/crossbow @ actions-5ce67b9abe

Task	Status
r-binary-packages

[assignUser]

That worked, we never actually passed the envvar to cmake but the result was as expected because cmake also looks for a brew prefix. Guess it's good that cran doesn't have openssl brew? ^^ https://github.com/ursacomputing/crossbow/actions/runs/9072462442/job/24928500464#step:16:75

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There were no benchmark performance regressions. 🎉

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